Bisexuality and Masculinity

I will be the first to admit that being bisexual, truly bisexual, and a man is a hard thing to swallow and an even harder thing to defend. Both men and women will either outright claim you are queer or they will secretly harbor suspiscions, and if so, they are both wholly and entirely wrong, so long as the man knows himself very well.

It is a double standard: a woman may be bisexual and it is accepted as such, but if a man claims such a thing suspiscions arise. Why? Is it not permitted for a man to emotionally and sexually express himself with his same gender and for only women to do so? Is it somehow "cooler" for women to be bisexual? Do women get excited less by the idea of two men having sex than men get excited at the thought of two women having sex? I doubt it! I know that both women and men want different things in this world, usually (a woman wants to be all and a man wants to have all), but if they have a desire for the opposite gender, then they most likely also have erotic feelings when perceiving two or more of that gender uniting in sexual activity. If for any other reason it is because sex between members of the same gender is something "bad" and "forbidden" for the opposite gender to perceive.

But I ask, "What is wrong with two men expressing themselves as two women might?" What is less beautiful or right about it? And why not see it as the same? Why is one driven upward in society as exciting (female bisexuality) and the other driven downward (male bisexuality)? Why the double standard? And why do more women not come out in support of bisexual men as men do for bisexual women? Is it that women are so into "being all" rather than "having all" that this is not the case, or is it something else? I wonder these things...

Granted, I have known a few women who are quite openly excited by the thought of a man being with another man, so this is not the case across the board; indeed I have dated women who encourage such sexual activity. Certainly, not the whole of society views bisexuality and masculinity as contradictory states of existence, nor has this ever been the case; in fact, in gladiatorial days it was quite common for the victor to sodomize the loser as an added show for the entire arena, which I am certain was much loved or it would not have been so common an occurrence. I can guarantee that if the women did not love it and the men did not also find it exciting, it would have rarely been an occurrence at all!

What makes anything about same gender sexual activity exciting to the opposite gender? Perhaps men love the beauty of female homosexual behavior and females love the power of male homosexual behavior? I do not know, but I do know there is a double standard.

On to me and my bisexuality...

I am quite secure in my bisexuality, although I do not advertise it to anyone but those who both have a need-to-know and who deserve to know, such as any partner I am with, particularly if I am in-love with them and wish for them to be in-love with the real me. It is hard being a man who is bisexual, but it is my place in life. I am capable of loving both genders and am capable of being sexually excited by both. I am able to express myself across the board and to allow others to express themselves.

Maybe I am just oversexed, or maybe I am just trying to be balanced in my life on many varied levels? I am no less a man, no more heterosexual and no more gay – I am bisexual. I am proud to be bisexual and I find myself at exactly where I should be and maybe even at a higher plane of evolution for being there. I am what I am. I am a bisexual man, secure in who he is and what he desires, as well as who he loves. I am a bisexual man and I am faithful, honest, and proud.

I love the woman I am currently with and I want to marry her and I can and want to be committed, but I am capable of loving and finding sexual fufillment in both men and women – this is true bisexuality. A common misconception of bisexuals, particularly men who are bisexuals, is that they are incapable of commitment and loyalty. Just because I can love both women and men, and I am able to find both women and men sexually attractive does not mean that I must act upon those feelings at all times. In that aspect, bisexuals are no different than heterosexuals and homosexuals.

Peace & Happiness,

Alraune

On Love

By Alraune

The definition of “Love” is one which has escaped human endeavor throughout the ages, but that does not mean it has not been attempted and, in some instances, very closely arrived at. It is my intention here to offer my own attempt at defining “Love,” if I may be afforded the opportunity by the dear reader.

First, it should be noted that “Love” is not an objective thing which can be accurately and adequately defined for all conscious entities, nor is it a purely subjective thing which can hold any definition, but it is much more of an interjective thing, meaning it by definition involves some sort of relationship.

I therefore propose that the definition of “Love” requires the inclusion of relationship; otherwise, it cannot and is not what we all know to be Love. 'Tis true one can love their self or love another without return, but a relationship of some sort, either superficial or between “me” and “I” must necessarily be in order to have any sort of Love.

I further propose that “Love” requires the recognition, acceptance, and desire for the unique characteristics of that other with which a relationship is being shared, and that varying degrees of Love can and do exist in direct correlation with the amount of recognition, acceptance, and desire entered into.

Finally, I propose that there is a difference between “loving” and “being loved.” The former is the degree of recognition, acceptance, and desire for another from the first person perspective while the latter is the degree of recognition, acceptance, and desire being felt by one in the first person perspective. “Love” is then, the condition of feeling “Love” for another (loving), or feeling “Love” from another (being loved), or being in-love (the reciprocal relationship of loving and being loved).

For the layman then, “Love” is what is experienced with someone whom you can be your true and naked self around, and who can be their true and naked self around you, and you both recognize, accept, and desire one another for exactly what you are individually and together.

True Love is the freedom to enter into a relationship without fear or reservation concerning who you are, and with no fear or reservation concerning who the other is, but rather acceptance and desire for one another.

This is the best definition for “Love” I have arrived at to-date, and I do not think it can be surpassed by me in any other way other than poetry and art and expression, for “Love” is a form of expression as well as feeling.

How else could I define “Love?”

Jennelle

I explode with joy and excitement,
I burst into flame,
I thirst to be me in you,
For you to be in me,
All fades and is nothing,
We are clarity and life,
I am alive, I am me!

You have become my breath,
I suck you in,
I soak you up,
You soak me up,
I am full and happy,
We are complete and one,
You are alive, I see!

You melt with my desire,
I consume you,
I experience you,
You experience me,
You are safe and warm,
We are united in being,
We are alive, we feel!

An ocean washes in,
I am calm in you,
You rage in me,
Our emotions stir,
We flow and ebb,
We bath in our delight,
We share total existence!

There is nothing else now,
Time ceases to exist,
Space is meaningless,
Life is purposeful,
We are, that we are,
All pain and sorrow fades,
Love has come, I awake!

It was all just a dream,
It was all just a dream.
We are not the dream,
We are the dreamers.

It's alright now,
The dream is over.
We have awoken in Paradise,
Lying beside one another.

The birds are singing,
Butterflies are everywhere.
The grass is soft,
The Sun is warm.

We frolic in the woods,
We laugh and sing.
We bathe in cool waters,
We share all things.

The Sun sets but we do not sleep,
We make love in the moonlight.
Our emotions rise into the sky,
In this place we find our being.

Sleep creeps in and we both grow scared,
Hold my hand! Hold my hand, my Love!
Together we can overcome,
Our love is far too strong!

We drift off to sleep in each others' arms,
I am asleep, but you awaken.
You cover me with a blanket, and all your love.
You kiss me, I moan in delight.

The Sun rises and we both are roused,
You are still there, I am still there.
We are in love, we are one.
I hold you close to my chest.

We are not the dream,
We are the dreamers!

We were not the dream,
We are the dreamers!

Hold my hand! Hold my hand, my Love!
Hold me tight, hold me close.
Cover me with your love,
I long to awaken beside you.

Love has come.

True Human Sexual and Relational Behavior

Definition. “Desirable” — any number of subjective and deeply personal perceptions

True human sexual and relational behavior is much like is describe in classical texts about sexual evolution and such liberal and modern texts on sexual evolution as 'Sex at Dawn' by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.

The woman wishes to be ejaculated within by as many “desirable” men as she possibly can within her fertility cycle, once she loses her fertility cycle she wishes to be ejaculated within only by “desirable” men which she trusts to be disease free, safe/loyal, and who are also fertile (she still hopes in technological society or supernatural salvation), although she will occasionally stray from that guideline if the male or female is extremely attractive (seeking 'pleasure'). Afterward, the major portion of her project becomes “self preservation” with the secondary hope of “help for her” along with a fertile and a “desirable” male.

Her “denial” stage is marked by the very real possibility of salvation and her realization of growing older, running out of time, and having become less biologically (and therefore instinctually) acceptable. She adapts and becomes more sexually “open” to compensate for her lack of “biological attraction” and becomes more sexually “liberal” At the same time the resourceful woman becomes more conscious of the end of things; and therefore the end of life, and becomes more spiritually “open” to love, and its many forms. She seeks to “give birth” through other means and seeks out “relationships” as a means to continue to “give birth.”

Eventually she accepts her circumstance in life and she desires someone she feels the most satisfaction and comfort in to be someone to die with or die loving. Her entire sexual, relational, and sexual moral belief system is eventually discovered as being based upon and centered around “giving birth” and “seeking pleasure.” The woman becomes fully conscious of herself!

Meanwhile, the male action is completely different. First the man seeks the women most easily had, then he seeks out the women most “desirable”, and then he seeks out the most :fertile” and otherly pleasant. He does this constantly and consistently, in a cycle. The male is as equally concerned with pleasure as he is reproduction, if not more concerned for the former. His primary concern is “relief of stress” followed by “survival through reproduction.”

It must be understood that the male “emotional” outlook is much different from the female “emotional” outlook. Men do not necessarily at FIRST feel their survival in the feminine sense. It may be more about “personal NOW preservation” than “later preservation,” but this is the dominant masculine view (I am confident any study would prove).

At first, men will likely act more on “attraction” and “mere pleasure” than on any sort of attachment. Next, as they grow older they will act more on “relationships”, attraction, interaction, and united states, because they will realize that although their seed is still good, their “appearance” in comparison to other young and fit men becomes increasingly difficult to counter-display. Although they “hold” the part, they no longer “look the part.” By doing this older men find a way to adapt to the still available women and find the “attraction” and “mere pleasure” which drove them and still drives them to begin with.

The infertile women find pleasure in their many available options, and the elder or infertile men, then find the same. Inevitably, both genders, if given sufficient thought, end up with bisexual and polyamorous tendencies due to life experience and the wisdom gained from it.